My Long and Unsuccessful Search for a Suitable Potential Mate by James Pate Williams, Jr., BA, BS, MSwE, PhD

My dating experience has been extremely limited. I was very shy in junior high school and high school and a teenage alcohol and later drug user or abuser. Most sane people meet their matches at church, school, or work. I would rule out work due to unethical fraternization.

I remember my next oldest sister set me up with an older high school cheerleader with a date to a dance. I was in the eighth grade at the tender age of 13. I am not a dancer and I like to express music by playing a musical instrument like an electric guitar (started back playing in 2001 after a hiatus about 20 years). The date did not turn out so well. My dad had to drive us around as a chaperon. Anyway, I had my sights on a female living in my neighborhood, but I did not make any direct overtures towards her.

Jump forward to my first college years 1971 to 1972. I had girlfriends but most were involved in short stands involving sex (Sex, Drugs, and Rock and Roll was my mantra). While I should have been cultivating long term relationships, I was satisfied with sex, mutual drug usage, and conversations. Those affairs were ephemeral.

I had infrequent sexual encounters in the period 1973 to 1983. These amounted to one night or a couple of nights stands. I was still doing drugs and I had a lot of emotional baggage that I would sling around. I pretty much gave up sex after 1980s due to the fact I feared I had Hepatitis-C. It is an exceptionally low probability event to infect a sexual partner with Hep-C since it requires blood to blood contact. Hover, I did not want to take any chances and ruin someone else’s health and life. I took Harvoni in late 2014 and early 2015 and I was clear of the virus via a quantitative assay of my blood. I had Genotype I Hep-C virus which is the easiest to cure by modern antiviral medicine.

I am done with my disclaimer.

I have already found rough approximations to “perfect” matches for me. One is neurological psychiatrist and the other a clinical mental health registered nurse. I need someone who can understand my mental illness and has great empathy etc. for me. Unfortunately, I cannot contact either of the preceding two females due to the chains of idiotic ethics. If one or both of my potential dates is married, then all bets are off due to oath breaking, and I cannot abide breaking moral edicts again.

I am on Zoosk, but all the attractive to me females are above my pay grade. Zoosk by the way is an up and coming dating website.

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Author: jamespatewilliamsjr

My whole legal name is James Pate Williams, Jr. I was born in LaGrange, Georgia approximately 70 years ago. I barely graduated from LaGrange High School with low marks in June 1971. Later in June 1979, I graduated from LaGrange College with a Bachelor of Arts in Chemistry with a little over a 3 out 4 Grade Point Average (GPA). In the Spring Quarter of 1978, I taught myself how to program a Texas Instruments desktop programmable calculator and in the Summer Quarter of 1978 I taught myself Dayton BASIC (Beginner's All-purpose Symbolic Instruction Code) on LaGrange College's Data General Eclipse minicomputer. I took courses in BASIC in the Fall Quarter of 1978 and FORTRAN IV (Formula Translator IV) in the Winter Quarter of 1979. Professor Kenneth Cooper, a genius poly-scientist taught me a course in the Intel 8085 microprocessor architecture and assembly and machine language. We would hand assemble our programs and insert the resulting machine code into our crude wooden box computer which was designed and built by Professor Cooper. From 1990 to 1994 I earned a Bachelor of Science in Computer Science from LaGrange College. I had a 4 out of 4 GPA in the period 1990 to 1994. I took courses in C, COBOL, and Pascal during my BS work. After graduating from LaGrange College a second time in May 1994, I taught myself C++. In December 1995, I started using the Internet and taught myself client-server programming. I created a website in 1997 which had C and C# implementations of algorithms from the "Handbook of Applied Cryptography" by Alfred J. Menezes, et. al., and some other cryptography and number theory textbooks and treatises.

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